View Full Version : Femdom Ideas, tips and tricks

04-19-2005, 03:19 PM
First off, I am a sub, but my wife finds new idea?s intriguing and occasionally tries things I suggest (and often doesn?t). I was wondering what sort of tips, tricks, and scenes the dom?s here like. I?m sure that some of what is posted won?t work for her (she hates gags for some reason), or will go past my limits (bi, scat, etc), but I was hoping for a list that we, as members of the same community can use to stimulate ideas.

I found two lists online, I don?t know who wrote them, but I?d like to contribute this to the community and add to it. I'll post list 2 after this one as it's too long and I feel folks can benefit.

List 1:
List of teases:
Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he'll
"Do Anything to please You"

- Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.
- Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.
- Have him address you as 'Mistress', 'Your Highness', 'Goddess'
- Call him by something appropriately demeaning: slave, pooch,
slut, ass kisser, sissy...
- Have him kiss Your ass...make him beg to kiss Your ass.
- Tie his hands and have him undress you with his mouth/teeth.
- Don't let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission
at any time while he is Your slave.
- Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread
naked in front of You while you read or watch TV, occasionally
his balls or penis with Your shoes.
- Either order him to stay erect, or don't give him permission to
have a hard on...
either way, punish him if he fails!
- Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end
and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it
shake it, lead him with it, whatever you please.
- Show Your slave your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no
- Tie your slave spread eagled to the bed and tease him for hours.
Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it
when he needs just a little more encouragement, don't let him
Use this time to manipulate him deeper into his submissive role;
tease him into admitting his fetishes, extract promises of
Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with it.
Scratch him with your finger nails.
Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.
Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to
kiss your nipple..let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him
Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the
for a while and let him think about what else you might do.
Lightly drape or wrap your panties over his cock.
tease him about masturbating with your panties.
Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the
of your panties...get more promises
Turn around for a rousing round of ass worship, and if he does a
enough job, maybe you can let him kiss your pussy.
If not, he's in a very vulnerable position for punishment...
Blindfold him and make him lick you to several orgasms. Take a
cum back and do it all again.
- Rub his face against your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him
your panties or a gag so that he can't lick you.
- Blindfold your slave.
- Verbal stimulation is often very effective, tell him things you
do to reward him, tease him with ideas you know he'd enjoy,
to humiliate him if he doesn't satisfy you.
- Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line,
boot lace or two, or even a pretty piece of ribbon. Use a long
piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball
Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the
end off
back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.
- Wrap his balls with an Ace bandage so it stretches them away and
- Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them
to smell Your panties or kiss your ass...stay just out of reach.
- Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.
- Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You
with it.
Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He'll be Your
brown noser and love it.
- Make him lick the dildo clean.
- Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not
give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for
- Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.
- Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)
- Use this list as a part of a game or to determine penalties
for your slave. Spin the wheel of torture, roll some dice
(dungeons and dragons dice are great for this.) Someone
suggested using the daily lottery numbers to determine how
your slave's day will go.

List of Humiliations:
Once he'll "do Anything to please You" here's some ideas
that will keep Your slave attentive and in his proper place,
and will hopefully be entertaining for You and maybe even make
life a little easier.

- Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little
girl, a French maid, a whore, a stripper...
- Give him a fitting girl's name...paulette, donna (for don),
or just sissy.
- Make him do housework naked or dressed in women's clothes.
- If he wears seamed stockings, a crooked seam is means for
punishment...god forbid if she got a run.
- Have him pamper you, have him:
- give you a foot/back/full body massage
- give you a pedicure/manicure,
- paint your finger/toe nails.
- bathe you/shave your legs.
- cook and serve you a nice dinner.
- Make him hand wash your panties and lingerie.
- Make him polish your shoes with his tongue.
- Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash;
Here pooch....Heel! Beg! Roll over...good doggy.
- Attach a leash to his balls or a cock ring, and lead him around
with that,
- Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.
- Ride him around as your pony boy...spurs? a riding crop? a saddle?
- Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and
him beg to suck it. fuck him.
- Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes
he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his
Mistress constantly.
- Have him sleep in a pretty nighty.
- Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to
cum, don't let him, punish him if he does.
- Make him screw himself with a dildo.
- Take pictures/video of him masturbating or when he's dressed
as a girl.
- Make him earn his rewards; for example:
Allow him to kiss your ass after the dishes are done.
1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of yours.
1 orgasm for him after he makes you cum 5 times.
Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to cum.
- If You think he's earned an orgasm, make him cum on your feet or
your ass
and then make him lick You clean.
- Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there
you give him permission. When you give the command he must cum
5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all.
(keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour...or as long as you
- If he's really horny and bothering you, you may want to curb his
by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin
conditioner... 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around
and lick them clean after each time.
- Always make him lick you clean after sex.
- When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed
up as
a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.
Give him plenty of chores to do while you're gone.
- Lock a padlock on his balls.
- Give him a golden shower.
- Enema
- Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him.
Punish him if you don't think it's good enough.
Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the

List of Punishments:
If he's not performing to Your satisfaction, or you just feel the
need to assert Your right to punish Your slave.

- Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler,
ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails...)
- Tie him in an uncomfortable position.
- Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.
- Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)
- Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.
- In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders - good for
spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.
- Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.
- Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock
or wherever.
- Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.
- Enema.
- Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult:
tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet,
tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high
- Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.
- Have him lick You clean after you pee.
- Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples.
- Drip candle wax on him.
- Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats,
- Humiliate him in public...take him shopping for panties/lingerie

04-19-2005, 03:20 PM
1. Tied kneeling and forced to remain in that position while licking you, being spanked while wearing butt plug. Then taken by the strap on until I finally am allowed to cum.

2. legs tied wide apart and used
3. Wearing a butt plug while doing short chores and spanked during it.
4. Acting like/being treated like a dog. Sit lay, down, lick, heal, bend over and take it 
5. Standing bent over a chair (like the back of the leather one) hands tied to the legs and taken from behind
6. Feet tied over head and eating you out with my ass exposed to your pleasure (like the night on the couch)
7. Tied standing up flogged, (maybe butt plugged, & licked until I am untied and allowed to masturbate while eating you out.
8. Being blindfolded and forced to keep my mouth open while you tease me with fingers, toes, vagina, ass, or anything else?then telling me the next thing you put in my mouth is going in my ass.
9. Leaving me ?homework assignments? such as:
1. note telling me to go upstairs put on the strap on with my cock sticking out and put the butt plug in then to kneel at the foot of the bed until you feel ready to come up.
2. Masturbate with a certain toy or vibrator
3. Put my handcuffs on
4. Forbid me to wear clothes ? except for collar
5. Order me to put a plug in under my clothes and have me change to larger ones through the evening ? checking and teasing my ass.

10. being told exactly how to masturbate while you watch me ? position, toy, where, which hand, speed, etc. and spanked if you decide ?I?m not doing it right.? (or even if I am and you feel like it and you just tell me I?m doing it wrong)
11. being stripped warmed up and told to sit on a certain chair (like the wood ones) with a butt plug on it while you sit on my lap and fuck me.
12. Forced to wear the plug through dinner or a TV show where I am allowed to touch myself but not come. I must also sit at your feet during the show. Occasionally you tell me to move the plug in and out or you tell me to bend over for a few swats or for you to fuck me with it - etc. ? sex w/plug in afterwards
13. Without warning telling me to stop (walking) and pull down my pants start using your fingers on me.
14. Tied, plugged and forced to watch you masturbate ? only after you come am I allowed to cum ? with the toy you used in my mouth.
15. being told it?s time for my ?anal training? where you fuck me with progressively larger toys until I take the dildo from the strap on ?then I am allowed to cum.
16. Forced to wear nipple clips (light ones) after you tease my nipple for a while with them.
17. Grabbing my hair and forcing me you eat you out.
18. Telling me to put on the strap on with a butt plug in so you have something to pull on while I?m inside you.
19. being blindfolded while you tell me what to do? have to find you without using my hands , etc.
20. being ?forced? to suck on something while you use me ? toy, your finger, one of my fingers that has been inside you, etc.
21. You ?show me how ? you want me to fuck you with a toy ? before I cum you stop and I have to try to do it the way you did ? punishments for failure.
22. After a shower ? and soap - I?m tied bent over and you eat me out anally before fucking me.
23. Sex in the closet with no light at all
24. Bent over your lap and spanked and fingered until I beg for an orgasm
25. Bent over my computer table, handcuffed to one of the legs so I can?t get up, and fucked
26. I come home to you wearing some nice leather outfit and holding the collar & leash
27. Using the vibrator on yourself then using your lubricant to use me.

28. Tying my hands to my ankles and using me

29. Bringing a small plug (lube???) out without telling me then tell me to go to the bathroom and ?put this in? for the ride home.

30. Tying me down and making me suck the strap on before you use it on me, calling me your little cock sucker etc.
31. making me wear a vibrating butt plug and give you the controls to turn up when I behave and low when I don?t
32. Fuck me calling me ?your little whore, fuck toy, sissy, slave, etc.?
33. Making me masturbate anally without letting me cum until I?m loose enough for the strap on.

34 Use the plug on me then spank the plug with the riding crop.
34. Plug me and make me clean while watching me with the riding crop, If I don?t clean well enough I get spanked. If I do, you tease me with the plug or let me lick you before the next task ? until you decide to let me cum.

35. Since you seem to want to dress me up, dress me up and wear the strap on the whole time while I am plugged then reverse roles for the evening.

36. use a penis gag on me ordering me to suck on it.

37. use a ring gag on me so I can?t close my mouth and make me suck on various objects
38. Surprise me by wearing the strap on under some clothes and unzip your pants pull it out and make me suck on it before you use it on me.
39. Buying a new toy and surprising me with it.
40. Using the sling & cuff my hands to the sling, tease me for awhile and finally let me come.
41. Warm me up w/ toys and work up to the large plug?. Then threaten (or do) fist me (if I can take it)
42. Forced to hold dildo in my mouth so you can ride it.
43. Fucked by the strap on or boomerang while you jack me off (in multiple positions)
44. tied face down with my head over the edge of the bed while you make me suck the strap on or you.
45. Come home to you wearing thigh high boots a corset fishnet top & a strap on forced to kneel for a spanking and then tease me for a while before you fuck me.
46. PURE FANTASY ? forced to eat you out while being fucked with a strap on.
47. You hold a dildo and order me to push back against it fucking myself.
48. Having to hold my cheeks open for you when you want to play.
49. Have me fuck myself with a dildo, (or two, one in my mouth).
50. Tied up, with you sitting on my face with a dildo (longer one) all the way inside me
51. you wearing fishnets, strapon and the leather bra.
52. Blindfold me and set out several toys, the first one I touch is used on me
53. Create several notes telling me how to masturbate (toy, wearing lingerie, position, speed, room, etc?..) and tell me I can masturbate at will, but I have to pick a note at random from the bowl and follow the demands on the note
54. Complain that I can?t even learn to spread my legs like the slut that I am and tie them far apart and fuck me so I?ll remember that?s how bad girls take it.
55. Force me to lick your asshole while you use a toy to help make you cum (with or without bondage
56. Nipple clamps
57. Treat me like a dog ? dildo fetch, cookie ?dog treats? but plug tail, rolled up paper spanking
58. Use the cock leash to lead me around for chores
59. Get a fake pussy and make me do oral on it while fucking me
60. Get a fake pussy and make me do fuck it while fucking me
61. Have me suck one dildo while you fuck me with another (fake 3 way)
62. Fuck me with a toy and your fingers at the same time
63. Sex School, I?m taught how to suck on dildos, eat pussy, take your strap on ? talking down to me ? spanking with ruler if I misbehave or sitting in the corner with a plug?. Dress me as a schoolgirl for more (use office as a ?school setting? and white board for telling me how to treat dildo, etc.
64. Tied down and forced to hold a dildo in my mouth while you ride the dildo.

04-20-2005, 05:22 AM

rape horse: Carpenter's saw horse with a dildo mounted on the top. Slave is commanded to mount the horse and then ordered to start moving up and down so that the dildo slides in and out. The speed of the strokes is determined by commands from the Owner.

The Collector: A device is designed and constructed that is completely suspended from a cat collar wrapped tightly around the slave's penis and scrotum. The device consists of a penis sheath that has a hose running out the end of it that runs into a large pop bottle that is also suspended from the cat collar. Through out the day, the slave is involuntarily forced to collect its own urine, which can be used by the Owner for anything that comes into her cruel imagination. The slave walks around all day while his urine burden gets heavier and heavier. The bottle is removable for replacement as each one gets full. Of course, the slave is required to approach the Owner, get down on its knees and beg loudly and passionately for permission to change bottles.

The bag: a plastic sandwich bag is fastened around the genitals of the slave with a genital collar and is tightened to a water-tight condition. The slave is then commanded to fill it with urine such that its genitals are floating in its filth. The pig is then force to wear this bag of shame for as long as it amuses the Owner.

The butt plug harness: This device is bought or made to securely hold a butt plug inside the slave. The device can be made lockable and be forced onto the slave for any duration and any place that pleases the Owner.

Chains: Custom made chains for the male to wear. Should be heavy, and designed to provide movement by the slave, but only with difficulty and a great deal of noise and awkwardness.


12-06-2005, 03:42 AM
I play chauffeur and drive Her and Her friends to the male strip club. I wait in the car, in the club's parking lot, until they're finished. Maybe while they're inside, Mistress calls me and says, "One of my friends ran out of cigarettes. Fetch a pack of Marlboro Lights and call me back when you're at the door." If Her friends don't know of our relationship, then I'm simply the designated driver. If Her friends know, ALRIIIIIIIGHT!

I love the idea of Her laying on the bed, on Her stomach with legs spread wide. She's talking on the phone while I'm slowly and gently licking Her ass.

Non-verbal commands. One snap of Her fingers, I strip. Two snaps and I bend over and spread'em, awaiting inspection. Three snaps or a clap...

She takes nude, humiliating pix of me. I have to print them out, frame them, and hang them on the walls where our friends won't see. Or maybe they will.

She invites over one of Her vanilla friends for "Girl's Night". I cook the food, serve it, and wash the dishes. I bring them drinks, then scamper away when She tells me to clean the bathroom. I'm sure Her vanilla friend would be VERY confused, but probably love the show.

Going to a sex shop, where She's very up front about our Mistress/slave relationship, saying things like, "My slave needs a new french maid's uniform and a butt plug." Before She and the salesperson hunt for new clothes and gear, She orders me to wait in the changing room, fully nude.

Going out to the same nightclub, separately. I have to watch Her dancing, drinking, and flirting with Her admirers. If any women hit on me, I'm forced to to say, "My wife doesn't let me talk with female strangers." Then I must walk away. When Her admirers ask for Her phone number, She gives them my cell number. All those hang-ups when they hear my voice only remind me how desirable She is to others.

I like doing ritual-type things for Her. For instance, every Saturday morning, I must wash Her car, inside and out, and fill the tank, before She wakes up. Having a glass of wine ready for Her when She comes home, without being told. Having to buy Her a gift or flowers, say, every Wednesday.

Wanna know what women really like? They like it when we do nice things for them in front of their friends. Send Her flowers once a month to Her office. Bring Her a picnic lunch at work. Send Her cards at work with a poem inside. Bring Her an umbrella at work when it's raining, so She doesn't have to get wet walking to Her car in the parking lot. Secretly arrange with your Wife's boss for a surprise day off. Make sure the boss knows that you're planning a romantic long weekend surprise. Call up your mother-in-law, just to say what a great daughter she raised.

Last, but certainly not least, NEVER cum before She does!

01-03-2006, 09:53 PM
Good forum, I like the advice

08-26-2006, 12:24 PM

08-31-2006, 08:35 PM
Blindfold your man then have some women over. Ask them not to speak or to speak lightly so he can't identify specific voices. Have the women touch him or watch him masturbate or do some other demeaning things.

After they leave explain to him (truthfully or not) that some of these women were women that he sees every day such as bank tellers, his barber, or maybe even co-workers.

From then on, whenever a woman looks at him he'll wonder if she was part of his humiliation.

02-02-2007, 04:13 AM
thanks for the list fairly new to this & my g/f is not very good at thinking up new ways to punish me so i'll show her the list & she can choose

02-04-2007, 09:34 PM
Alternative to my previous suggestion. Put the man in a compromising position and then blindfold him. Have him do something like jerk off for you and then wisk the blindfold from his eyes to reveal the women you secretly invited to witness his humiliation.

Either way, a guy is going to be very anixous whenever you blindfold him.

08-16-2007, 03:31 AM
Link to tons of

Femdom Humiliation ideas (http://www.cuckold-chastity-belt-stories.com/ideas)

Toomany to paste and copy.

01-07-2009, 12:38 AM
Nice collection of ideas! I recently made my boyfriend come up with a list like that, containing 52 tasks, one for each week of the new year. He will have to complete some of them to be granted his weekly orgasm :). Here is the list:

1. get peed on by you
2. drink your pee
3. get tied in position to pee on myself
4. drink my pee
5. watch you sleep with another man
6. give a man a blow job
7. have a man sleep with me
8. get a hard caning (50 hard strokes)
9. get kicked in the balls 10 times
10. get a piercing
11. see a professional dominatrix
12. get an enema
13. eat gross food/leftovers (from dog bowl, floor, feet, shoes, etc.)
14. get dick/balls rubbed with stinging nettles
15. have clothespins pulled \ flicked (with cane) off of nipples, chest, thighs, etc.
16. kneel on rice for 10 minutes
17. completely shave all body hair
18. be tied up, blindfolded and left alone for a lengthy period of time (maybe standing up or in an uncomfortable position
19. get mouth washed with soap
20. suck on a strap-on after it has been used
21. stand in the corner for a lengthy period of time (pining quarter to the wall with my nose)
22. use Tabasco as lubricant for masturbation, inside a condom, on a strap-on, etc.
23. go on an embarrassing shopping trip (buy for example, tampons, pads, laxatives, adult diapers, pantyhose, condoms and a sex magazine at once in the same store)
24. wet my pants (or a diaper)
25. sleep on the floor
26. drink water from toilet bowl maybe with flushing
27. get ice cold shower for 10 minutes
28. clean shoes with tongue
29. watch porn movies for a lengthy period of time while being tied up and unable to touch maybe with erections being made painful/unpleasant by some device
30. no speaking for a day/weekend unless specifically permitted
31. wear a humbler for a day/weekend while cleaning the apartment, fix dinner, etc.
32. wear butt plug and pantyhose for going out
33. eat soaked pieces of bread from floor
34. go to a beauty salon and get waxing, manicure, pedicure (maybe with color) etc.
35. come onto food and eat it
36. stay tied in a hogtie for a while
37. get slapped hard and spit in the face and mouth
38. serve as a human ashtray
39. no eating for a weekend
40. not touch my penis at all for a week
41. wear a tight slip with itching powder in it
42. have an orgasm in public (movie theater, restaurant, etc.)
43. wear a remote controlled vibrator in my bottom on a shopping trip
44. wear an electrical dog trainer (maybe around balls) and get zapped for misbehavior
45. sign up for an embarrassing class (knitting, striptease, etc.)
46. wear a device that makes erections painful for a weekend
47. have my balls crushed by a device, under shoe, etc.
48. be an animal for a day (walk on all fours, be on a leash, only make animal sounds, eat from a bowl, etc.)
49. wear a butt plug for a lengthy period of time
50. have icyhot rubbed into my dick and balls
51. buy and have sex with a (male?) blow-up doll
52. have hands tied behind back for a day/weekend

02-06-2009, 12:31 AM
WOW....Alot of really great ideas. My mistress and I have talked about alot of those before,
but it helps to see those in a list. Thanks.

02-12-2009, 12:48 PM
Some of these suggestions are fucking delicious!

I swear I want to grab some hot chocolate and chill on the couch and read this over again...haha....I may just do that!

01-22-2011, 01:25 PM
This is one of the many games or scenarios I have typed out for my mistress because she likes me to give her all kinds of ideas so she can read and choose whatever she feels like. I have some more, so if you like this one at all, let me know and I will submit more. Also you can of course alter these to fit your specifications in your D/s relationship. My mistress is also my girlfriend and we aren't full time, but we like to play these games a lot.

Damned if you do, Damned if you don’t!
Sit slave down, tie him down, whatever you prefer. Tell him he must learn to control himself and do whatever you tell him. Tell him he is not allowed to get hard, or he will be punished. Then tease him. Start with fingering yourself, playing with toys, blowing on his dick, etc. If he gets hard admonish him for failing. Punish him by spanking, whipping, hit his dick or balls. When he goes down, continue. Once he gets hard again punish him again by sticking a plug up his arse, or a vibrator, or both. Tell him it better not happen again. Tell him if it does he will be in your panties for the next two days and banned from touching himself or masturbating. Once it happens again, gag him with your panties, fuck him till your both satisfied and make him cum in you. Take the panties from his mouth, put them back on, and wear them for the next hour while they soak up both of your cum. Then make him wear those for the next two days. Not only will he be wearing panties thinking about you constantly. They will also be crusty from the cum. When he gets home the first day, tease him rigorously but don’t let him cum or take the panties off. Make him eat you, but give him no pleasure. Then the next day send him dirty texts keeping him on edge all day. When he gets home jump his bones and make him all horny again. Then tell him the only way you will let him fuck you is if he keeps the panties in his mouth while you go at it. After you finish and the panties come out of his mouth, make him clean you with his tongue, or clean the cum with the panties and put them back in his mouth. Tell him if they aren’t sucked clean in the next hour, he will be wearing them the rest of the week, and be denied orgasms the entire time too. He will have them clean in minutes while you laugh at him. Once he’s done, have him lick you clean for good measure, all the while reminding him who runs the show.

01-22-2011, 10:06 PM
This is a nice thread, I'm always glad to see it bumped and one example of why we should be able to post to old threads. I've not read through them all yet, but will post some of my own once I do...

09-11-2011, 04:00 AM
a secne we like to do is over a period of time we save all the scraps of food from every meal, and i mean every meal and mush it all up together,sometimes before serving we may add a little something or 2 this could be the contents of a tea bag or something to bulk it up a bit like a crushed weetabix. If we find its too dry then piss is added before being served up on the bathroom floor,and boy does it have to be all licked up

11-16-2011, 07:14 AM
WOW, what a great thread. Have nicked lot's of ideas and will try them out.

Thank you guys